No Dicks Allowed
NO DICKS ALLOWED
Ant Oxley
Note: If you are of a sensitive affect, stop reading. If you are easily offended, why are you here?
Dickhead - Urban Dictionary: “Someone who treats someone un-fairly for little or no reason”
Since opening my own business this term and my understanding of this term has evolved. I would still say in all my businesses one of the main rules we strictly enforce is “No Dicks Allowed”; this refers to members and staff equally. After 5 years, I now I understand much deeper what we mean when we say this.
I have a pretty no-nonsense, no bull attitude and I would say it can be quite frequently interpreted as me “being a dick” and I wouldn’t be surprised if people affectionately and un-affectionately referred to me as a dick. Trust me, I have analyzed my own demeanor a lot, and what I have found is the key to whether someone is really a dick or not is in the definition, are they “treating someone unfairly” and “for little or no reason”.
When thinking of the most influential people in my life (parents, coaches, teachers), I have always at some point thought of them as being dicks to me, but they never treated me unfairly and there was always a reason behind what they did.
What I have come to understand over the past 4 years is that our definition of dick is actually quite complex, it is not necessarily a bad or mean person, but I have found they can be defined by one or more of these qualities:
- They always act in their own self-interest
- They don’t treat everyone around them the same
- Their default setting is pessimism
- Their attitude and demeanor are inconsistent
I am not extremely spiritual and I am not becoming a hippie, but what I have started to understand is we all resonate an energy. The energy of the people we like to be around at OxFit and OxWork is consistent, eternally optimistic and no bullshit. If you don’t fit that, you are not a bad person, but you just don’t fit.